How to Reach Hearts on Both Sides of an Issue

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“There is a Chinese curse which says, ‘May he live in interesting times.’ Like it or not, we live in interesting times. They are times of danger and uncertainty; but they are also the most creative of any time in the history of mankind.”

—Robert F. Kennedy

Robert F. Kennedy said this in 1966, but it rings particularly true today. 

Expressions of overt racism and prejudice barely receive a notice.

Common civility is seen as a weakness.

Political positions are championed as if they determine eternal salvation or damnation.

Loyalty is tested to party, country, family, church, and God—and many are certain they are qualified to judge.

Not since the Civil Rights era have preachers been so called upon to discern and proclaim what it means to follow Jesus Christ and love one’s neighbor as oneself.

With so many competing viewpoints, so many people unwilling to dialogue, and so much fear driving people apart, how can preachers proclaim the dignity of every human being in a way it can be heard by people on both sides of the divide?

Clarify Your Intentions: What Do You Want to Accomplish?

Do we want to persuade to take action?

Open someone's mind?

Create empathy for a different viewpoint?

Establish a standard of treatment or response for those within our congregation?

Whatever we hope to accomplish, the Gospel is central.

It cannot be an accessory to the heart of the sermon.

The Gospel is the substance itself. 

Why?

Because every belief, thought, prejudice, and action can be traced to our understanding of God's relationship to us. 

The Gospel is proclaimed so we come to believe we are loved, secure, forgiven and at peace with God. 

  • When we believe God holds us in contempt, we are defensive, harsh, and quick to point fingers.

  • When we believe God loves us—delights in us—we love generously, indiscriminately, and sincerely.

  • When we believe we are right, we seek to change, control, and dismiss.

  • When we believe we are secure, we long to know and understand each other.

  • When we believe God is angry with us, we approach those around us with judgment, criticism, and even condemnation.

  • When we believe we are at peace with God, forgiven and accepted in Christ by grace, we approach the fallen world with grace, seeking peace.

The Gospel shapes our worldview which shapes our actions: "We love because he first loved us" (1 John 4:19). 

For listeners to offer greater love, justice, mercy, and grace in our "interesting times," they must first experience love, justice, mercy, and grace for themselves in Christ.

Then they will grow mindful of the last and the least.

Then they will share their attention, resources, time, and energy with those who are marginalized, discarded or otherwise held down by our culture.

Then they will lay down their shields of certainty to live in the vulnerable, messy tension of nuance. 

Then they will look beyond the surface of issues to the root causes and systemic injustices at play. 

Ask yourself, what motivates you?

What invitation do we wish to issue through the sermon?

Identify that, and then ask what listeners need to better understand about God's character and relationship to them in order to receive the invitation. 

Preach to Yourself

Consider a topic that feels politically fraught.

If you were listening to a sermon that disagrees with your point of view, what would help you remain open to listen?

What tone of sermon would I want to hear?

  • Is it a “raise the rooftops” kind of sermon? That is, one in which the preacher is utterly convicted by the rightness of his or her take on the Gospel and persuades through strong rhetoric?

  • Or one in which a central story brings you and others along together?

  • Or maybe it would be an educational sermon to show the history and movement of a theme throughout scripture leading to a conclusion that makes you rethink your convictions?

What about curiosity, openness, and conviction?

If you heard a preacher preach on a politically sensitive topic, do you want to sense there is room for alternate views?

Or maybe you find it inspiring that they preach with certainty, leaving little room for dialogue? 

What about the preacher’s behavior?

What behavior would you hope to see during the rest of the liturgy, after the service, and in meetings or events outside of the sermon?

  • What body language fosters a deeper relationship with the preacher—whether in spite of or because of their conviction?

  • How would that preacher talk about people who come to different conclusions?

  • How does that preacher receive criticism or disagreement after a sermon?

What kind of invitation do I find genuine?

If a preacher is truly interested in a dialogue with his/her listeners—one involving speaking AND listening, and that they are open to being persuaded—what would communicate such willingness?

  • a continuing ed series?

  • a roundtable discussion?

  • set times for coffee talks?

How would you wish to be invited to engage?

Answering these questions helps us foster opportunities for a two-way conversation if we wish to do more than pay lip service to our desire for discussion.

Preach with Humility

More likely than not, our views on passages of Scripture, cultural flashpoints, or political issues have evolved over time. 

Views evolve because we live more. Study more. Experience more. Encounter more perspectives.

We may believe differently about some topics now than we did ten or twenty years ago.

And it's likely some views will shift in another ten or twenty years. 

This is a natural aspect of growing in maturity and faith.

As we mature, the substance of our faith changes.

In fact, Scripture makes it clear that spiritually speaking, we should be moving from milk to solid food as we grow.

The teaching we receive and extend matures as our faith matures.

As a result, everyone's views are in process—including ours.

At any point, we’re offering our best-educated guess.

This means that while we have the wisdom to offer those behind us on the journey, we may also have the wisdom to gain from others. 

We can listen to the congregation’s wisdom. 

We can be willing to be persuaded while also honoring the authority and wisdom we’ve been given.

We don’t need to stay small or shy away from our convictions or difficult truths.

Indeed, the last and the least are counting on us to speak on their behalf.

The privileged and comfortable need to be awakened from their complacency.

Ultimately, preaching with our lives in humility, showing that we are willing to listen, learn, and change our minds, may carry more weight than our sermons themselves.

Become a Student 

Complex cultural and psychological factors are at play any time we invite change, particularly of closely and sincerely held beliefs.

There is always something at stake for the person considering a change.

Inviting a new way of thinking or seeing is not as simple as just "changing a mind."

Often, change is accompanied by shifts in relationships, lifestyle, or even the use of resources.

Understanding the layers of meaning beneath a belief or attitude will help us issue invitations with respect and compassion.

And learning how our approach to sensitive topics raises either resistance or openness will help us lead with greater grace and efficacy.

We cannot assume a well-crafted sermon alone is sufficient to speak through the noise of our culture and reach hearts on both sides of a point of view.

Informed, gospel-centered preaching accompanied by humble self-awareness and grace-filled invitations increases the odds that our message will be heard, even by those who disagree.

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